Whether you're new to this blog or have been here since the beginning, you'll quickly notice that I write about a lot of topics here, including style advice, classic menswear, fitness, nutrition, leadership, relationships, and professional development.
Simply put, I’m a Christian because I embrace the teachings of Christ. You might be curious about how my faith relates to the topics I write and teach about, and I'm here to tell you that it connects to everything.
Though perhaps not in obvious ways.
I know that's a bold claim, but let me explain.
Enough Was Enough
I’ve grown weary of how many men’s lifestyle “influencers” have chosen to mentor and teach other guys how to "do life."
While it's true that possessing a good sense of style, a relatively high level of fitness, better-than-average relationship advice, and an entrepreneurial spirit attracts attention and secures brand deals, followers, and even an elevated status, the advice often offered by these would-be masculine teachers doesn't seem to hold any substantial value.
Many of these self-proclaimed "manosphere gurus" struggle to convey the fundamental meaning of life, particularly as men navigating today's world.
It shouldn't only revolve around wealth or status, particularly when considering the many affluent and famous people who appear to be struggling with unhappiness in their everyday lives.
It can't be about having anything we desire whenever we want it, since no material possessions or amount of earthly experiences can genuinely satisfy the deep yearning for fulfillment that we all seem to share.
And, unfortunately, it doesn’t appear to depend solely on happiness, love, or even a meaningful connection with another person in the form of a spouse or partner.
None of that is enough...
How Do I Know This?
Because I’ve been there.
And like you, I’m human.
I've been the guy who has searched for meaning in an attempt to feel important or to be remembered by a world so eager to move at the speed of light.
I’ve been the guy who searched for love in all the wrong places, only to feel more empty the further I went along.
I've been the guy who would prefer to have his pride and ego drip-fed while his soul is slowly starved.
So you’re probably wondering…
What Makes Me Qualified to Tell You How to Live?
The short answer is... nothing.
I don’t have all the answers to life’s biggest questions, and I certainly can’t claim to know how to solve your problems—not by any earthly means at least.
You see, my job isn’t to tell you how to live your life; it’s to point you towards the Giver of life.
His name is Jesus and He claims to be the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
In a morally pluralistic society so keen on discussing truth as if it were a relative concept, I’m here to tell you that the capital “T” Truth was a person who lived roughly 2,000 years ago.
And He wasn’t just the Son of God…
He was God.
And still is.
So Why Do I Care About All This?
Because men want answers to seemingly simple yet deeply complicated issues.
The young man—and even the grown man—who needs to know how to tie his tie may also deeply desire to connect with his father and learn something from him, hoping to feel loved and accepted as a son for the first time.
The guy who wants to become a leader to avoid appearing weak in front of his co-workers and boss may secretly care more about discovering his purpose in life than about climbing the corporate ladder.
The gentleman who hates his reflection in the mirror and truly believes that if he just appeared more masculine, muscular, or athletic, everything would somehow be "okay," probably isn't as concerned about his health as he is about how others perceive him.
And the deeply anxious man in his mid-forties, who just got broken up with by the woman he dreamed of building the latter portion of his life alongside, might very well be secretly grappling with his lifelong abandonment issues and fear of loneliness.
As a result of this natural desire to be known, seen, heard, and loved, we all choose to be shaped by something in this world.
The life we live in is the life we live out.
Something has taken hold of each of us and controls our lives, whether it is a person, group, object, interest, hobby, ideology, or addiction.
So my question to you is:
I see it more and more these days. Many men are lost, hurting, lacking confidence, in need of someone to follow, and desperate for wisdom and compassion.
When we men are directionless, we will follow nearly anyone who can communicate some semblance of a vision to us.
It's no surprise that many men turn to the internet or the nearest self-help book, looking for someone to teach them "how to be a man" — and a successful, good-looking one at that.
But those we sometimes choose to follow cannot truly satisfy our deep spiritual longing for truth and inner peace.
To be a man in God's economy is to recognize that He placed us on this earth to enable life to flourish and thrive.
To be a man is to endeavor to provide well, lead effectively, mentor wisely, defend and protect diligently, and be the generous friend that so many others need.
A man who succeeds by doing all these things will grow to be a peaceful presence in people's lives. As Saint Saraphim of Sarov said nearly three hundred years ago:
For us men, it is indeed true.
But a man who, himself, hurts, winds up spreading more hurt and subjects others to it. If you ask me, society doesn't need any more of that.
Many of the world's problems exist because men have spiraled out of control, allowing their hearts to harden beyond measure. Instead of becoming purveyors of peace, they become harbingers of chaos.
Fatherlessness and a lack of genuine leadership among men fuel many of our most pressing social issues, the consequences of which are of the furthest-reaching variety.
What Are You Looking For?
If you’ve ever found yourself searching the internet for advice and inspiration on being a "better man," you might feel like I once did.
But all of this “earthly bread” for which we are often eager to consume will never fill the God-sized hole in our hearts. Trust me, it will only end up breaking you, friend.
Jesus is the only bread that breaks for you.
He knows that we don’t just need healing, we need a Healer.
So Now What?
I’m not asking you to place your faith in religion, because let’s face it: religion is a man-made institution that tends to let us down.
Do you know why?
Because humans often make things worse.
We are incapable of doing everything right. Sure, we have some good moments here and there, but overall, we are painfully insufficient. Everything we create or touch eventually deteriorates.
We just aren’t enough, regardless of what society or the “self-help” movement wants us to believe.
I am, however, asking you to consider putting your faith in Jesus because He is more than enough for us.
He is the only bread that satisfies.
Not Like Other Blogs
Depending on who you are and your experience with the Christian faith (or Church, for that matter), you might be hesitant to stick around.
I get it. Honestly, I do.
You’re not wrong to question if I’m just some other “religious quack” on the internet looking to tie Jesus into anything and everything.
But if your interest is piqued, just know that the door is always open.
I’ll be here. You now know where to find me.
My only goal is to spend time with Jesus, be like Him, and ultimately do as He did. This is what it means to be a disciple of Christ.
That doesn’t mean being a separatist by giving up some of the things I have a passion for, such as men’s style, fitness, growth, and leadership development, in exchange for only talking about the Bible all of the time.
And it certainly doesn’t mean having to be a syncretist by blending together all of these earthly interests to construct a postmodern lens through which I view the person of Jesus Christ.
Instead, it means doing what Jesus did by meeting people where they’re at in life.
So, welcome, my friend. I'm so glad you're here.
My Hope for You
Perhaps you initially came here for advice on various topics as a man, whether it’s what to wear for your date or job interview, how to lead well and purposefully in the workplace, how to get in shape, etc.
But I hope that you'll choose to stay for Jesus.
I know this is entirely new and different from what many others attempt on their websites.
But get used to different.
Let's all be the men God fashioned us to be.
